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Q- What are the most important considerations a young lady should have when choosing a husband? If she refuses someone simply for economic or worldly reasons, will that expose her to the punishment of Allah?
A ı The most important attributes that a woman must look for in selecting a husband are character and piety. Wealth and lineage are secondary considerations. The most important aspect is that the proposed groom be a person of piety and proper behavior.
The person of proper behaviour and piety will not do his wife any wrong. Either he will keep her in a manner that is proper or he will leave her to go free in the best way.
Furthermore, the person of religion and behavior may be a blessing for her and her children. She may learn manners and religion from him.
If he does not have those characteristics, she should stay away from him, especially if he is one of those who is lax with respect to performing the prayers or if he is known to drink alcohol, may Allah protect us.
As for those who never pray, they are disbelievers. Believing women are not permissible for them nor are they permissible for the believing women.
The important point is that the woman should lay stress on manıs character and piety. If he is also of a noble lineage, that is to be preferred. This is due to the Messenger of Allahıs (peace be upon him) statement:
"If a person whose religion and character you approve of comes to you, then marry him."
However, if he is also suitable (in other ways, such as financially and so forth), that is better.
ı Sheikh Bin ıUthaymeen; Fatawa Al-Marıah
http://saudigazette.com.sa/index.cfm?method=home.regcon&contentID=2009041034655
Q: I am a woman wearing Niqab (face veil) and two people are proposing to me. The first is bearded and is in the second stage of commercial secondary school while I have obtained the commercial secondary school certificate. He is also three years older than me and he has only one sister who will get married and live far away.
On the other hand, the other suitor is an agronomist. He owns his own apartment. He also agrees to all of my requirements such as not shaking hands and intermixing with a member of the opposite sex. He is a very practicing Muslim and is well-mannered but he is beardless. My family left the decision up to me. What is the Islamic stance on this situation? It should be taken into consideration that the second suitor is very well-off.
A: You must choose the pious, religious, well-mannered, and the wise husband who fears Allah in all his affairs.
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!
Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta'
`Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz
`Abdul-Razzaq `Afify
`Abdullah ibn Ghudayyan
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sajid_chauhan_81
10-04-2009 @ 5:02 PM
