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Q- I have faced so many difficulties in my life that it has made me hate this life. Every time I turned to Allah, I pleaded to Him to take my life away at the earliest. This is my wish until now as I do not see any solutions to my problems except death; it is the only thing that can save me from this punishment. Is this behavior forbidden for me? |
A ı When a person wishes for death because of something that has afflicted him, he is doing something about which the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, ııNone of you should wish for death because of some harm that has come to him. If he has such a wish, he should say, ıO Allah, give me life if You know that life is better for me. And give me death if You that death is better is better for me.ıı (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Therefore, It is not allowed for anyone to wish for death because of some harm, hardship or difficulty that has come to him. In fact, he should be patient and expect a reward from Allah for what he is passing through.
He should also wait for relief to come, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) has said, ıKnow that victory comes with patience, relief with distress, and ease with hardship.ı (Sahih Al-Jami Al-Sagheer, vol. 2, pg. 1151)
The one who is afflicted with any hardship with any affliction should know that those afflictions expiate some of his sins that he might have committed. No believer is afflicted with any kind of worry, grief or pain except that Allah expiates sins committed by him due to that, even the pricking of a thorn. When the person is patient and expects rewards from Allah, he reaches the stage of being patient. This stage is a very elevated stage. Allah has said about such people:
ııAnd give glad tidings to the patient. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say, ıTruly, to Allah we belong and, truly, to Him we shall return.ıı (Qurıan, 2:155-156)
The questioner feels that there is no solution for her problems except death. I believe this is a mistaken view. Death does not solve any problems. In fact, the situation of adversity may get even worse. How many humans die while being afflicted with pain and problems but they had been wronging themselves and did not give up their sins and repent to Allah. Then his death may just quicken his punishment. If he remained alive, perhaps Allah would have guided him to repentance, seeking forgiveness, patience, facing the problems and expecting the relief. This all would have been good for him.
Therefore, you must be patient and expect relief from Allah. Allah says in His Book,
ııSo verily with hardship there is relief. Verily with the hardship there is relief.ı (Qurıan, 94:5-6)
ı Sheikh Muhammad Bin Saleh
Al-Uthaymeen; Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women, pg.48-50