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Topic: 'Relationship' with brother-in-law's?
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Umm Salsabeel unspecified
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Asalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh
I require a clear answer on this issue as soon as possible as it grieves me that we don't apply the Qur'aan and Sunnah to our daily lives.
What is the daleel regarding the one who seats his wife and brother in the same room, even though he is present. No need arises for her to sit in their company for that leads to free mixing (talking freely), so what do the scholars say regarding this issue?
It seems in this day and age, especially culturally everyone is seated in the same room, depsite being non-mahram to each other!
Could someone please get this question answered inshaAllaah as soon as possible or any hadith regarding this would be very much appreciated.
BarakAllaahu feek
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abu naimah Shamsuddin ibn Harold Simmons
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It was narrated from 'Uqbah ibn Amir [radiyyallahu anhu] that Rasulullah [sallallahu alaihi wa salam] said: "beware of entering upon women." A man from among the Ansaar said, " Ya Rasulullah, what about the in-law?" He [sallallahu alaihi wa salam] said, " The in-law is death." This Hadith and others on this topic are found in the section Kitab al-Salam of Sahih al-Bukhari. There is commentary on this Hadith and perhaps someone who has access to it can elaborate more, but it is clear that there are some issues to apprehensive of, but I did want to share that Hadith. and Allah Knows Best.
Abu Nurani Shamsuddin
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abu naimah Shamsuddin ibn Harold Simmons
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salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah;
Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 7 of the Muhammad Muhsin Khan translation, Hadith #5232, and there is the meaning of "al-hamu" - "mainly the brothers of the husband" Imam Nawawi includes "the brothers sons, paternal uncle, cousins etc." May Allah Ta'Ala ease that situation and protect you all from the ways of the non-Muslims.Text
Abu Nurani Shamsuddin
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Zayd Abu Ubayd
(Peqin,Albania)
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Shaykh Bin Baz on freemixing of cousins at home
حكم الإختلاط
بالزر الأيمن ثم حفظ باسم
نحن عائلة نجلس على مائدة واحدة أثناء الطعام، وهذه المجموعة تتكون من الإخوان
وبناتهم وأبنائهم وأبناء الخالات وأبناء العمات -نساء ورجال طبعاً- نجلس على سفرةٍ
واحدة، فهل في هذا حكم شرعي يمنع الاختلاط، هذا والحقيقة أنا غير مرتاح، لكن العادة
والتقليد تأصلت فينا أفيدونا، وماذا نعمل؟ ولعل العائلة تسمع، أفيدونا بارك الله
فيكم؟
هذه العادة عادة سيئة يجب تركها، ولا يجوز أن يجلس الرجل مع امرأة غير محرم له؛ كبنت
عمه أو بنت خاله أو بنت خالته، بل يجب أن يكون النساء على حدة في مائدة أخرى،
وأن يكون الرجال على حدة. أما الجلوس مع زوجته مع أمه مع خالته مع عمته مع أخته
فلا بأس، لكن نساء لسن محارم له ليس له الجلوس معهن على المائدة واحدة، بل يجلسن في
مائدة أخرى، ولا يجوز هذا الاختلاط الذي يفضي إلى ملاصقة المرأة لغير محرمها أو رؤيته
لها أو ما يتبع ذلك، فالمرآة عورة كلها فليس لها أن تجلس مع غير محرمها؛ لأنه يرى
أكلها يرى وجهها يرى يدها يرى شيئاً آخر. فالمقصود أن هذا منكر يجب التخلص منه،
وكل عادة سيئة يجب تركها، والعادات تحكم بالشريعة، ولا يجوز أن تقدم على الشريعة.
الواجب أن تعرض العادات على الشريعة فما وافق الشريعة قبل وبقي، وما خالف
الشريعة وجب تركه من جميع العادات -نسأل الله للجميع الهداية-. بارك الله فيكم
http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/11010
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Ummu Eesaa K. Lawal
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salaamu alaik, the text is in Arabic, where can one find an English text relating to free-mixing with cousins & in-laws? JazaakAllaahu khair.
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unspecified ساجد
(Mumbai (India))
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Wa 'alaykum as salaam,
There are many fataawa in English on alifta.com particularly this link.
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Ummu Eesaa K. Lawal
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link didn't work for me...
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Abu Abdullah Ekbal Hussain bin Siraj
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These fataawa might be relevant to your situation:
The fifth question of Fatwa no. 16402
Q 5: In some families the brothers' wives uncover their faces in the presence of their brothers-in-law. When I advise them, they say they are brothers and do not want to be separated from each other. What is your opinion in this regard?
A: It is not permissible for women to uncover their faces in the presence of their brothers-in-law because they are not Mahrams for them; they are in-laws. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about Al-Hamu (the in-laws of the wife - the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.). The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: Al-Hamu is death itself. That is, the bad consequences of uncovering their faces in the presence of them are more harmful because it is treated leniently.
(Part No. 17; Page No. 400)
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!
Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta'
Fatwa no. 18051
Q: My wife, my children and I live with my mother, brothers and sisters in the same house. During meals, I sit with my mother and brothers and we have the meals together while my wife sits alone because my brothers are grown-ups. The question now is: Am I committing a sin by doing this because my wife may not eat when on her own? What is your advice? May Allah reward you with the best!
A: Preventing your wife from eating with your brothers is the right thing. They are Ajanib (men lawful for the woman to marry) to her and she has to wear the face veil in their presence. Her eating with them will require her to uncover her hands and face in front of them, which is not permissible according to the saying of Allah (Exalted be He): and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyýbihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband?s fathers, or their sons, or their husband?s sons
(Part No. 17; Page No. 401)
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet
Muhammad, his family, and Companions!
Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta'
More Q&As like this can be accessed at this link here
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Zayd Abu Ubayd
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